Personalities are, at the same time, both very simple and very complex. There are some six billion of us on this planet and no two are the same and yet we all have many things in common.
One thing we all have in common is the perception of who we are. There is that personality that other people perceive you as being. Then there is that person that you perceive you are. And then there is the person that you really are. And the one that usually has it wrong is you.
You see, the easiest person to fool is often you. It’s kind of like a fish in water. He doesn’t realize that he’s in water and it’s hard to see that you are the fool from the inside out. From the outside it’s usually pretty blatant what’s going on, but not so easy when it’s you.
Likewise, people on the outside can’t see, feel and experience what’s going on in your mind, so at best they only have half the answer. Some people are better at observation than others and many times they will surprise you with their insight. How many times have you seen someone make a very unwise choice and all you could do was stand by and let them do it only to have them say “Why did you let me do that?” You know why. Warning them would not have done any good because it made perfect sense to them at the time.
All of this comes down to two words—awareness and connection. The closer you can come to making these three viewpoints merge, the better off you, those around you and your quality of life will become. You won’t have any effect on how other people perceive you, but you can become more transparent to them. “What you see (and hear) is what you get.”
Strive to bring down the walls that exist between you and that other person. Vow to have a “no drama” rule, particularly with that special someone. Listen to yourself and your own body. They can speak very loudly if you will only listen.